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Tuesday, December 28, 2010

I am not ready

Dear Hope,

This would be the last week of 2010. Next week, we are all going to enter a new year, year 2011. Time moves when you did not realised it. I'm going to be a year older, again! In fact, we are all going to grow older. I just wish that all of us would have a long life and in a pink of health.


I'm going to miss my pillow and bed.


This also means that the holiday is going to end very soon, class starts on January 3rd as I mentioned earlier, I hope I did! And, as usual, I am so not ready to go back. It's my last semester doing my first degree but I still couldn't find my will power. I hope I will soon find it because I really need it, I really do. I need to work extra hard this time around. Enough about it, I could only hope and pray at this point of time.

sigh* Yes, I do sigh a lot lately. Since, the holiday is over soon, so, I do have a lot to do list, but the most important and a priority in my list is to get my hair chop and I am planning to do it maybe this Wednesday. I'm planning to go to this new salon which is much nearer to my house. I don't know what to expect but wish me good luck.

Can I chop my hair like this? It's kind of cute, but am I cute?

I think I should go off to sleep now and try to wake up early tomorrow morning. Adjusting the time is a difficult task as well. I love sleeping =I

Sleeping,
Wish

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

I Just Had Sex




Not just yet. Haha. This song is addictive, I can't get it out from my head and Blake Lively is smokin' hot in this video ;)

School starts soon!
sigh


The Beat


"The scars of your love remind me of us
They keep me thinking that we almost had it all
The scars of your love they leave me breathless
I can’t help feeling
We could have had it all
Rolling in the deep
You had my heart and soul
And you played it
To the beat"

I love Adele, she is one of my favourite :)

Monday, December 20, 2010

Scissors and Cut

Dear Hope,

The holiday is ending soon, the class will soon haunting me again on January 3rd, means I only have couple weeks before I'll get back to my life a lousy and grumpy student. However, this time around it would be a little bit different, because this would be my last semester for my first degree programme. (phew!) But life would be more difficult, as I have to make a vital decision in my life, on whether I should continue with the professional course, a one year programme, or should I stop, which I think is a stupid and ridiculous idea unless I'm a trust fund baby, or should I continue with master programme. Yes, I have a few months to think about it.


"I just like the stripes, into stripes right now, but hard to find.sigh"


Speaking of school starting soon, yes, it will give me some headache. I don't know why but it usually does. First, I need to get my hair done, my hair cut. At the moment I have a long Aslan the tiger from Narnia kind of hair (according to my brother), the longest that I ever kept. The problem here is on how and what style should I cut my hair? I done goggling on what hair sytle for 2011 and it doesn't help me much. I'm in a dilemma, any help?


"Should I coloured my hair blonde?lol making a statement"


Ok, that's about it lah! Hair cut. lol. There are some other major headache but I think I won't said it right now. Enough with one. Hair cut and yes, I need to shop, I don't know why, but I'm a shopaholic, I just need to shop, buy something give me alternate pleasure ;) And I miss my friends a lot, can't wait to see them, so we can have our time together again, arguing where to eat and what movie that we are going to watch. Miss them lots. xoxo

When is the right time to get my hair done?
Wish


Can I pull off this hair style?

Crazy


Shall we compare our hearts to a garden -
with beautiful blooms, straggling weeds,
swooping birds and sunshine, rain -
and most importantly, seeds.

I should be writing but, I just don't have the thought.
I might later.
I just hate love.

Hate Love,
Wish.

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Suk


Dear Hope,

These pass few days, I don't know. Life can be sucks, and I think my life is kind of sucks. I hate reading love stories, that is what I've been doing these pass few days, and it makes me feel lonely at one point. I've give up on hoping long time ago, but now it seems that it struck be back. But someone does make me feel a little bit better, it says that it will happen when you less expected it and when it does, it is the perfect one. *sigh*

Lonely,
Wish

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Apple



I thought his talent is much better than the JB, but sorry though, bit effeminate. First time I heard it, I thought it was a girl's song.

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Democracy

"...all men are created equal, a phrase that the Yankees and the distaff side of the Executive branch in Washington are fond of hurling at us. There is a tendency in this year of grace, 1935, for certain people to use this phrase out of context, to satisfy all conditions. The most ridiculous example I can think of is that the people who run public education promote the stupid and idle along the industrious-because all men are created equal, educators will gravely tell you, the children left behind suffer terrible feelings of inferiority. We know all men are not created equal in the sense that some people would have us believe-some people are smarter than others, some people have more opportunity than others because they're born with it, some men make more money than others, some ladies make better cakes than others-some people born gifted beyond the normal scope of most men.

But there is one way in this country in which all men are created equal-there is one human institution that make a pauper the equal of a Rockefeller, he stupid man the equal of an Einstein, and the ignorant man the equal of any college president. That institution, gentlemen, is a court. It can be the Supreme Court of United States or the humblest J.P. court in the land, or this honorable court which you serve. Our courts have their faults, as does any human institution, but in this country our courts are the great levelers, and in our courts all men are created equal."


Excerpt from To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee.

I've just finished reading this wonderful piece of literature by award winning Harper Lee, and the above is my favorite quotation from the book, where it says about equality, and yes it is true. Yes, I know I might be one of the late readers of this book but now I know why this is one of the book that one's must read before one's die. It's a simple love and human story. It'll tell you about human behaviour, and how pure it is from the view of pure hearted people.

Friday, December 10, 2010

When will I see your face again?



Dear Hope,

Quite a while eh? My life has been up and down so many times, I wonder how I survived? Currently this song actually reflects my current mood. I don't know why and don't ask me why so? Every now and then, I will have this whatever feeling and I sigh. I'm sure everyone does has their own whatever moment. I would really love to write more, but I don't have a word in my mind right now. It's a blank canvas. To tell you the truth, yeah the whatever feeling. (this is not even a complete sentence). I think I should just climb the bed and go to sleep and hope it will soon go away.

When will I see your face again?
Wish

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Red Ribbon Day


December 1 is a World AIDS Day.
Wear your RED RIBBON and show your support to stop the spreading of HIV/AIDS and discrimination against people living with HIV/AIDS.

It also falls within the 16 days of activism against gender violence.
Forcing woman to have an unprotected sex is also a form of violence, woman has the right to a safe sex and to ask a man to use protection and to wear condom. Woman has the right to a healthy lifestyle, don't treat them like an animal because woman is also a human being, they has the rights to be safe.
Use condom! Stop the violence!

Friday, November 26, 2010

Love in a Broken Home

The definition of Battered Women Syndrome (BWS) is different in law and psychology, sometimes causing confusion for expert witnesses who are not specially trained in working with abuse victims. The legal system uses BWS to describe both the clinical syndrome and the dynamics of the battering relationship, while mental health professionals use the clinical syndrome to design treatment plans. Battered Women’s Syndrome is considered to be a form of Post-Traumatic Stress. Battered Women’s Syndrome is a recognized psychological condition that is used to describe someone who has been the victim of consistent and/or severe domestic violence.

"…almost all battered women who kill claim to have done so to protect themselves from imminent death or serious bodily injury at the hand of their batterers."

To be classified as a battered woman, a woman has to have been through two cycles of abuse. A Cycle of abuse is abuse that occurs in a repeating pattern. Abuse is identifiable as being cyclical in two ways: it is both generational and episodic. Generational cycles of abuse are passed down, by example and exposure, from parents to children. Episodic abuse occurs in a repeating pattern within the context of at least two individuals within a family system. It may involve spousal abuse, child abuse, or even elder abuse. The episodic cycle of abuse is characterized by distinct periods of behavior that eventually result in an extreme episode of verbal and/or physical abuse. Typically, victims of episodic abuse live in denial of this reoccurring pattern.

Battered Woman Syndrome was first proposed in the 1970’s. According to Joe Wheeler Dixon, PhD, JD BWS appears to be the product of legal advocacy and not science. BWS seems to owe its existence to the needs of legal advocates to support and justify claims by battered women who have killed (their batterers). The defense revolves around the woman’s mental deficiency and helplessness. Learned helplessness can be induced in lab animals, but no sudden rage or aggression. Battered woman syndrome, a concept developed by American clinical psychologist Lenore Walker, explains the psychological effects of persistent long-term violence on women
The syndrome characteristically has three phases;Justify Full
1) Tension building.
2) The acute battering incident.
3) Loving contrition.

Being forgiven, the violence recommences. By now, the woman’s loss of self-esteem, depression and sense of helplessness have trapped her into a situation from which she is psychologically and hence physically unable to escape. As Lenore Walker records, over time ‘the first phase of tension building becomes more common, and loving contrition, or the third phase, declines. Women who kill are the women who finally react against the violence, not in the heat of the moment as a response to a triggering specific event, but in a violent action caused by the long term suffering of abuse and a final attempt to escape from their abuser. In Charles P. Ewing’s analysis, battered women who kill, do so in ‘psychological self-defense.’ Ewing notes that;

"…almost all battered women who kill claim to have done so to protect themselves from imminent death or serious bodily injury at the hand of their batterers."

Thus, from a battered woman’s perspective, the issue of killing her partner is not so much an issue of provocation, or diminished responsibility, but pure self-defense. In court, expert testimonial regarding domestic violence can be used for various purposes: to demonstrate the defendant is a battered woman, to explain an abused woman’s state of mind and/or conduct or to support a claim or the validity of a particular defense. Experts have acknowledged that Battered Woman Syndrome is considered a subcategory of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, but not a mental disease in the context of insanity.

Stop the violence. Take charge!


In England, provided the catalyst cases for feminist demands for reform of the law of homicide. Those cases reveal the difficulties under which female defendants labour in establishing a defence to murder of their male partners under English law. In the case of R v Ahluwalia , the defendant had suffered years of violent abuse at the hands of her husband, and under threat of a further attack, set fire to his bedding and killed him. Ahluwalia was convicted of murder in 1989. The defense of provocation failed. The court, however, having admitted psychiatric evidence relating to battered woman syndrome, ordeal a retrial. When the matter went on appeal to the Court of Appeal, on the basis that the trial judge had ignored the effect of battered woman syndrome, the Court of Appeal quashed the conviction for murder and substituted one of manslaughter. Evidence of battered woman syndrome was adduced, not under a plea of provocation but under the plea of diminished responsibility. In the later case of R v Thornton , a similar factual situation existed. She was convicted of murder and sentenced to life imprisonment, the court ruling that the defence of provocation was unavailable by virtue of the fact that Sara Thornton had not reacted instantly to the provocation by her husband. On appeal, the Court of Appeal ruled, for the first time, the battered woman syndrome could be a relevant characteristic for the jury’s consideration of a plea of provocation.

In Canada, the case of R v Lavallee is an example case of a success for self-defense and battered woman syndrome. Wilson J made it clear that battered woman syndrome had to be recognised in order to correct the gender bias in the criminal law, and that battered woman syndrome enabled the standard of reasonableness required by law to be expanded to include women’s experiences. Nevertheless, battered woman syndrome not only be used on the violence inflicted on the victim herself but also if the violence is inflicted onto her children as in the case of R v Charlton, where the defendant killed her abusive partner who threats herself and her daughter sexually and violently. Gender is also irrelevant as in the case of AG’s Reference (No.24 of 2003) where a man of a low IQ killed her wife and his son during the argument due to the cruel taunting of his wife and being forbidden from seeing the children. However, these cases does not make battered woman syndrome as a legal defence but as only be used to support a plea in mitigation of sentence .


In Australia, self defence might be considered the most appropriate defence to a charge of murder for a woman who kills to protect her life or the lives of her children in a domestic violence context. However, the lack of success in raising self-defence in Australia for battered women has meant that provocation has been the main focus of the courts.

The situation is different in Malaysia. There is no case to illustrate the use of battered woman syndrome as a legal defence because Malaysia do not recognised the use of battered woman syndrome as defence in Malaysia’s criminal law. Although Malaysia has the Domestic Violence Act 1994 that covers any violence that occurred onto woman, however the Act only covers woman who are legally married and to commence a suit under the Act, the Act must come hand in hand with Penal Code and Penal Code is silent on battered wife syndrome as a defence. Thus, it is hard for a woman in Malaysia who kill or murder their partner due to the continuous violence inflicted on her to raise the defence of battered wife syndrome.

As the alternative, those women can only claim defenses that are recognised by our criminal law which is provocation or insanity which is hardly provide protection if there are happened to be a victim of the battered wife syndrome because the nature of battered wife syndrome is different from provocation which need the element of sudden and grave provocation which is not the case in the battered wife syndrome.

It is hard for a woman in Malaysia who kill or murder their partner due to the continuous violence inflicted on her to raise the defence of battered wife syndrome.

The United Nation Declaration on the Elimination of Violence Against Women has defines violence against women in Article One means any act of gender-based violence that results in, or is likely to result in, physical, sexual or psychological harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or in private life and Article Two further states that violence against women shall be understood to encompass but not be limited to the requirements mention in the Article.

Hence, Malaysia fails to observe this definition by the United Nation Declaration making woman in Malaysia might face the capital punishment if they happened to commit the offence of murder of their partner out of the battered woman syndrome and this is clearly an example of gender-bias law in Malaysia.
Love your women,
Wish

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Take Back The Tech






Globalisation has its impact on women, whether it is good or bad. Now, technology has become one of the mean to create violence against women. Together we can stop it. Take charge, join and support Take Back The Tech.

Spread The Love


"And of His signs is He gaves you wives from among yourselves, that might live in tranquility with them, and put love and kindness in your hearts." Surah Ar-Rum 30:21.

Love your women, stop violence against women. There is no place for violence in this world.
16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence.


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Sunday, November 21, 2010

Tubing



Love like WOE




Two songs that would accompany me to sleep today.